Empowered or Disempowered?

September 27, 2017

Many people are afraid of Tarot card readings. They think it’s some dark omen that augurs the future. That belief always surprises me, especially when you realize that a Tarot card is just a piece of paper with picture on it. I liken it to a Rorschach test—pictures we’re asked to interpret.

I have been interpreting Tarot cards the last 12 years. If you were to come to me for a reading, here’s how I would see it:

1. You have a question. For example, Is this the right time for me to sell my house? Will I get a promotion before the end of the year?

2. You come to the reading with a certain energy around that question. You may or may not be aware of that energy. The cards have a mysterious way of tapping into your subconscious energy, which, by the way, holds a powerhouse of information. It may hold information your conscious self denies.

3. Next, you pick one or more cards with that question in mind. Each card has a certain energy and meaning. If more than one card is picked to answer the question, they may be put into a spread. Each position in a spread usually has a certain meaning. A simple spread could be Past, Present and Future.

4. You end up with a convergence of energy: the energy you bring to the reading about that question, the card’s meaning and the position’s meaning. Those three components comprise the interpretation and an answer to your specific question.

What?  You Don’t Like What the Cards Say?

Perhaps you don’t like the card that you pulled for the Future. You have choices in how to respond: You can stomp away in frustration (and say, “It’s all hogwash!”), or you can pull additional cards to explore what is meant by that Future card. Those additional cards can provide more information on how to best deal with a situation that initially looked unfavorable in your eyes at the moment of the reading.

When you pick Tarot cards in a reading, it reflects the energy of your behavior up to that moment. This is an important point many do not understand. The cards are giving you a head’s-up. If they are telling you not to sell your house even though you are hell-bent on selling it when you came to the reading, it’s worth your attention to stop and consider the issue more deeply. Perhaps there are issues you haven’t considered. What are the pitfalls? Could you get a higher return if you wait? Perhaps more repairs need to be done before putting it on the market. Or innumerable other variables you may not have considered or probed deeply enough.

We are so pummeled with bad news, hostile exchanges, and fear-mongering that when we come for a Tarot card reading or any other so-called fortune telling medium, we are quick to give our power away, especially if the reading isn’t to our liking or expectations. Laura Day, the author of several self-help books that focus on intuition, puts it this way:

“…people get really confused about precognition—telling the future. The way people use it is often damaging. If I hear I’m going to have a car accident, for example, I don’t wait in terror for it to happen. I ask, What are the circumstances? Who am I with at the time? What day is it? What color is the car? I look for those things and then I do my best to avoid the accident.”

You Are an Infinitely Powerful Being

A Tarot card reading may not be able to answer all those questions, but it gives us clues we can spot, especially if we listen to our intuition. Those clues can spur us to make different and more thoughtful choices. Those choices can then lead us to more propitious outcomes, significantly better outcomes than had we let things unfold on their own. When we take charge of our choices, we end up feeling empowered and confident for having taken good care of ourselves.

My meditation teacher keeps telling me, “You are so much more powerful than you can imagine.” Laura Day says, “…every one of us is an infinitely powerful being. So as you work with intuition, remember that you can also make choices that can change those predictions.”

So, when you choose to go for a Tarot card reading, know that the cards are simply a tool to give you information you may not be fully aware of. They reflect your energy at the moment of the reading, not necessarily your energy in the next week or next month, especially if you start making choices and taking action different from those before.

I believe the cards are meant to help you. You’ll know the next best steps to take when you let your intuition absorb what the cards have to say. Make Tarot cards your friend, not your foe. Use them to empower yourself, because you are an infinitely powerful being!

This is the second of three articles discussing the use of essential oils when clearing clutter.  I diffuse Young Living Essential Oil blends when working with my clients.  To understand the context of this blog, you may wish to refer to my blog entry on September 27, 2010, an introduction to this series.

To clear clutter takes commitment.  When approaching the task, some folks whimsically think, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I cleaned up my place?” but clearing clutter is more than just organizing things.  It is a letting-go process with an emotional component that can surprise the best of us.  If you are not serious in making your commitment, you could get derailed at the first juncture—to keep or not to keep?   Overwhelm, emotional attachment, or the “I may use it some day” syndrome grabs you by the neck and stops you in your tracks!

Young Living's Home Diffuser

That’s why I advise diffusing certain Young Living Essential Oil blends as you begin the process.  In particular, I lean toward three blends to start:  Valor, Clarity and Forgiveness.  If you don’t have a diffuser, you will need one.  Young Living offers a variety of them.  I recommend  their Home diffuser (Code #4468) because it is quiet and not as expensive as some of the others.

Skittish or Unsure—You May Need a Dose of Courage

I have had several clients who enthusiastically sign me up to help them clear their clutter, but when the moment of truth arrives, they feel skittish and unsure.  “What have I done?  Why did I hire a professional organizer in the first place?”  When I arrive, they profess their wariness and tentatively show me the space we plan to address.  If they are open to my diffusing oils, and not all clients are, I start with Valor.  

Valor helps overcome fear and opposition.  By reviewing the four oils it comprises, you will understand why I choose it for beginning the de-cluttering process:  Spruce, Rosewood, Blue Tansy and Frankincense.  Please note:  Each oil has many physical, mental, emotional and spiritual qualities.  I am focusing primarily on the emotional and spiritual benefits as they relate to the de-cluttering process.

Colorado Spruces

Spruce brings energy in from the universe.  Animals in the wild lie down at night under spruce trees for protection, recharging and rejuvenation that the trees bring them.  Humans employ it for similar reasons.  Spruce grounds the body, while at the same time creates the emotional balance necessary to receive and give.  Some clients have difficulty receiving help at first; spruce allows the release of emotional blocks so help can be received.  And if you are clearing your clutter by yourself, the help you are asking for can come from within.

Valor’s remaining three oils ensure confidence and courage.  Even though each has a physiological impact, what I find captivating is their influence on the emotions.  Rosewood calms the mind and creates a feeling of peace and gentleness.  Blue Tansy helps rid anger and promotes a feeling of self-control.  Frankincense inspires a positive attitude.  All of these qualities are required if we want to be successful in clearing clutter. 

Clearing Clutter is Not for the Fuzzy-Minded

Jasmine Flower

Clarity, a combination of 12 oils, is my second choice because the oils it comprises are known for their ability to increase mental alertness.  Too many to list, let me highlight three:  Ylang ylang, Bergamot, and Jasmine.  Ylang ylang evokes feelings of self-love, confidence, joy and peace.  Bergamot uplifts and calms emotions to help relieve anxiety, stress and tension.  Jasmine produces feelings of confidence, energy, and optimism.  Wow! 

Don’t we all need clarity when going through our stuff?  We are obliged to be discerning:  What is valuable?  What no longer serves me?  Do I toss or donate?  If we linger over each object, we probably won’t get the job done.  The decision-making process can be enhanced using Clarity, and the dreaded sense of overwhelm is kept at bay.  I use it often with clients.

Let’s Forgive, Forget and Let Go       

For some, forgiveness is the one step needed in order to let go of stuff.  Whether it is forgiving oneself for not addressing certain issues when they came up or forgiving others for a perceived trespass or wound, freeing oneself of past hurts allows one to open the door to the present.  When that happens, the past evaporates and the de-cluttering process begins.  That’s why the Forgiveness blend is a good one to start with.

The 14 oils in Forgiveness all have powerful emotional effects that help people move past life’s barriers and bring them into a higher spiritual awareness.  They create an electrical frequency that affects the soul to a point where people are almost compelled to forgive, forget and get on with their lives.  Isn’t that why we are de-cluttering in the first place?

Sandalwood Tree

Like Clarity, the Forgiveness blend contains Ylang Ylang, Bergamont and Jasmine; however, the oil that may make the difference in this blend is Sandalwood.  This oil alleviates depression and can remove negative programming from the cells of the body.  It allows us to accept others with an open heart while diminishing our own egocentricity.  Helichrysum, another powerful ingredient, serves as a catalyst for letting go of angry feelings.  Diffusing this highly spiritual blend can help us chisel away at the crusty emotions that cake our heart and keep us stuck in clutter.  

The Power of Essential Oils is Unknown to Many

Essential oils can give you the necessary boost when facing clutter and feeling stymied or paralyzed.  Most people don’t know about them; yet those who do use them with regularity for almost any need they have.  If they are new to you and you haven’t tried them, I encourage you to make the investment in a diffuser and one or more of the oils I have mentioned. 

See how you think and feel before, during and after diffusing.  A subtle change in attitude may occur at first.  In fact, you may end up diffusing oils several times before you recognize a change in how you approach your clutter.  I suspect, however, when you do recognize it, you will be pleasantly surprised and will see the results of what you only before imagined. 

I used Connie and Alan Higley’s Reference Guide for Essential Oils to list ingredients in the oil blends discussed and to describe their qualities.  To order, click on Young Living Essential Oils’ website at www.youngliving.com.  To sign up, please use my member number #303970 as your sponsor and enroller.

For the past 12 years I have been using therapeutic-grade essential oils for every aspect of my life—physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.  When I launched ALIGN, A Unique and Integrative Approach to Clutter and Balance, in 2006, I had been using the oils for eight years.  I knew they could be an important component to my helping clients clear their clutter.  

This blog and the next two will address essential oils and how I came to use them in my clutter-clearing work.  Because essential oils are a foreign concept to many, I will spend time in this first blog introducing them—albeit ever so briefly—and describing how I started to apply them to ensure my own well-being.  The second blog focuses on particular oil blends I use in my work and why they are helpful to clients and their de-cluttering process, while the third suggests oils clients might use after they have cleared their clutter.  

Ah, Yes, Aromatherapy!

You might be saying, “Ah, yes, aromatherapy,” and thinking, “What a silly idea!”  I want to dissuade you of this notion and reverse your thinking.  Aromatherapy is a healing modality.  Depending on which oils you use, you can spur your creativity, soothe your anxiety, strengthen your intuition, uproot traumas, and much more.  Substantial scientific research underscores their validity. 

A Little Background

When we smell an aroma, it bypasses the central nervous system and areas of the brain that control reasoning.  Instead, the aroma goes straight to the limbic system, our brain’s emotional center.  Some essential oils can cause such an increase in brain oxygen that they lead to a heightened activity in the hypothalamus and limbic system.  This can have dramatic effects on our emotions, learning, and attitude, but also on many physical processes of the body, such as immune function, hormone balance and energy levels, none of which is controlled by will or reason.

Essential oils can be used in many ways:  Inhalation, direct application on the body, internal and oral use as a dietary supplement, diffusing in the air, as well as cooking and cleaning.  Please educate yourself before using them.  Some can be applied directly to the skin, while others are quite strong and can burn your skin if you don’t apply with them with a mixing oil.  For the purposes of this blog, I will focus on diffusing oils.  

To diffuse oils you need a diffuser.  Unlike aroma lamps or candles, a diffuser disperses essential oils without heating or burning, which can render the oils therapeutically less beneficial and even create toxic compounds.  A cold-air diffuser disperses a fine mist of essential oils into the air, where they can remain suspended for several hours. 

Why I Started Diffusing Essential Oils

Six years ago, after being “laid off” from a job, I had to grieve my job loss and launch my job search.  Bombarded by “what ifs,” I needed to conserve my energy for writing résumés and job interviews.   I had struggled with depression in the past, and this situation could have triggered it again. 

By this time I had been using Young Living Essential Oils (YLEO) for awhile, but rather haphazardly.  My best friend had introduced them to me years ago and assured me they could help me in many ways.  YLEO are pure, therapeutic-grade oils free from contaminants like heavy metals and synthetic extenders. 

In order to keep myself on an even keel, I started diffusing essential oils near my computer, where I sent job queries and résumés to prospective employers.  I gravitated toward Young Living’s wonderful oil blends, proprietary mixtures of several single oils.  Blends called “Motivation,” “Into the Future,” and “Inspiration” caught my attention.

The Blends I Used

“Motivation” seemed the perfect tonic for my unemployed blues. Comprised of Roman Chamomile, Spruce, Ylang Ylang and Lavender, this blend stimulates feelings of action and accomplishment.  I couldn’t just watch the soaps and eat bonbons; I had to jump on the job-search trail.   Designed to overcome feelings of fear and procrastination, it did just that.  Even though my wound from being laid off was still fresh, I could appreciate the relief of no longer going to a job I didn’t enjoy and begin the process of sending out résumés.

The idea of being a bag lady could have loomed heavily in my mind and prevented me from stepping forward.   Without a job I felt muddled as to where to go next.  In need of confidence and a dose of faith, I chose the blend “Into the Future” because it was designed to help leave the past behind and birth excitement and a vision for what lies ahead. Two of the seven oils it comprised were Frankincense and Jasmine. Frankincense helps overcome stress and despair. Jasmine stimulates the mind, unlocks past blocks and can produce a feeling of confidence.    

The third blend, “Inspiration,” seemed the perfect complement to the other two.  It appealed to my spiritual bent.  The Essential Oils Desk Reference, a great resource for those wanting to know more, describes its effect—it creates “a feeling of being wrapped in a cocoon of spiritual quietness.”  In addition to Frankincense, which also increases spiritual awareness, it contains several oils, including Cedarwood, Sandalwood, and Rosewood.  I knew if I wrapped myself in spiritual quietness, I would get a clearer picture of what my next step would be.  “Inspiration” calmed my anxiety around joblessness and allowed me to listen to my heart.    

The End of This Story’s Chapter

After seven months of job-hunting, I was informed that my unemployment compensation had ended.  No future job was in sight.  I hightailed it to the Unemployment Office, thinking I could get an extension.  “No extensions!” I was told.  Dazed and not knowing what to do next, I returned home to work on Plan B. 

Within days three people approached me independently to organize their papers.  I never spiraled into deep depression as I had feared.  I didn’t end up as a bag lady on the street.  Initially unaware, I had just launched a new career as an organizer and de-clutterer.  Throughout the months of being untethered, essential oils had kept me grounded, motivated and spiritually connected.  I was and still am forever grateful.

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